“I’m Sorry You’re So Sensitive” Isn’t an Apology

Wow! That’s a powerful way to train your kids to be in one of the most important aspects of dealing with conflict resolution. The notion of acknowledging hurt in such detail and addressing the deliberate nature of the action is in and of itself truly radical and deeply healing for both the parties involved. They will surely become extremely sensitive, emotionally stable human beings if they adopt and adhere to what you are trying to teach them. More power to you and your kids. 🙏💕

This feels very forced. Not everyone is looking for “repair,” and this approach seems to place the responsibility for emotional healing on the person who caused the harm. But you cannot force someone to acknowledge their wrongdoing, take accountability, or make things right. This is why Christ calls us to forgive.<br><br>Teaching children that healing depends on another person’s willingness to repair the damage sets them up for tremendous hurt in life. When they grow up and encounter an unrepentant world filled with shameless people, they will meet individuals who have no interest in apologizing or taking accountability. Worse, their desire for repair may even be used against them.<br><br>Children need to understand that they cannot control another person’s remorse or willingness to change. Forgiveness does not mean excusing harmful behavior, pretending the hurt never happened, or abandoning healthy boundaries. It means choosing not to remain bound by someone else’s actions.<br><br>Forgiveness is not earned through remorse or repentance. It is something we are called to give, just as Christ forgave us. Forgiveness cannot be held hostage to someone else’s repentance.

That has nothing to do between Judaism and Christianity. It has everything to do with humanism. You can explain why you are hurt by someone’s actions and then apologize for your own actions without needing to qualify it. And it’s far is what I know to be forgiveness in a Catholic sense of the word, because that’s how I was raised, you have to be truly repentant in your heart. The words mean nothing if you’re on self is not truly apologetic for what you have done.

&quot;I did it on purpose so I did it for a reason... Now I&#39;m apologizing because I was made to apologize.&quot; Sometimes the act of apologizing is the issue where there was no discussion, no going through the problem and working together to see what went wrong. People want someone to apologize and it&#39;s almost like a power battle. You must now feel sorry and show as the wrongdoer even though you feel like you were the one violated and your actions were the consequence of that. And receiving the apology you must now accept it and not hold it in your heart anymore, regardless if you&#39;re ready. I think that&#39;s exactly the &quot;too much focus on the apology&quot; part where there&#39;s no genuine interaction and seeing eye to eye, figuring things out.<br><br>Because if you mean it and things have been dealt with, a simple sorry is more than enough and at that point the other party doesn&#39;t even need it, they have already forgiven, but still take it and accept it. It&#39;s crazy to think that one can process everything in their own head and let it go in the exact moment. But I agree that apology is the last step. I just don&#39;t think the first steps are court hearing of the decided culprit, it should be a panel where different parties come together and practice wording out their feelings about the whole situation and go through why it happened and learn how each others behaviour affected the other.<br><br>In relationships you rarely have one victim and one perpetrator if you look at it honestly and holistically and not just from a superficial standpoint of arbitrarily picking some visible action that is deemed the issue from outsider perspective. That&#39;s part of the issue why parents sometimes create grudges and why bullying doesn&#39;t get resolved (well that&#39;s a more complex case). But you pick one thing and make someone apologize, sometimes unjustly and then it&#39;s almost humiliating to dig deep to present yourself as the criminal as if it&#39;s one-sided. I mean sometimes things are more simple and more one-sided that it seems pedantic to talk about it like I did, but I do think sometimes those actual issues are ignored for superficial resolution and &quot;lesson&quot; as if someone learned to &quot;respect others&quot; and &quot;not mess with things&quot; because they were made to make a &quot;better apology&quot;.<br><br>But I&#39;m mixing up two things here, this was assumedly more about teaching kids limits of behaviour, what they can&#39;t do, than solving relationship issues.

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I swear by God that I only speak out because of hunger, poverty, and dire circumstances. My younger siblings and I have gone three days without food. Every hour, our landlord knocks, demanding rent and threatening to throw us out onto the street if we do not pay. O people with compassionate hearts—I swear by the One who raised the heavens and spread out the earth—there is not even a single day’s worth of food in our home; we are suffering immensely, relying only on the occasional help of neighbors. You who love your own sons and daughters—please know that we, too, are someone’s daughters, and we, are suffering in agony, yet no one looks upon us with a merciful eye.... I appeal to you, those who love to do good:,,,.we are orphans with no one to turn to, and we face the threat of being evicted from our home and cast out onto the street if we do not pay the rent.,.,.🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🤲🏻🤲🏻🤲🏻🤲🏻...😢...😢..🎉😊😢😊😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢