Inside the debate over ‘gentle’ parenting and boundaries | BBC News

The primary instinct of children—as with all living organisms—is survival: physical, mental, and social survival. Everything that happens to them in early childhood serves as a lesson on how to survive in this world. The world at home may be warm and pleasant, but the outside world is ruthless. It is a huge mistake to raise them in a completely sheltered environment devoid of any obstacles... otherwise, we end up with functionally illiterate teenagers who are constantly depressed due to their inability to survive. This is already happening across much of the Western world. It is full of people who lack basic life skills and expect someone else to do the work, simply because that is how they grew up. The result is a bunch of whining, spoiled brats: "Oh, I’ll work from home," "Oh, but this job requires too much effort—I can't do it," "Oh, the cleaner didn't clean my house" (a house that hasn't been cleaned in five years). They are utterly incapable individuals who don't know how to make decisions, take action, or handle the basic tasks needed to survive and be productive members of society. Yet, these very same people complain about the immigrants who are actually the ones cleaning their toilets... In the UK, for instance, it is incredibly common for people not to flush the toilet after using it! They don't clean up after eating in the kitchen, and they don't realize that eating on the sofa isn't allowed... they don't wash their hands after eating a greasy doner kebab, then touch everything in the house with those greasy hands. All of this stems from those early years—the time meant to teach them how, what, and where things should be done... the basics of survival. God forbid a major disaster strikes; a huge number of people would perish due to a genuine inability to make decisions and take action. How are they supposed to have learned, given that their parents ought to be the ones consciously teaching them... though perhaps the parents themselves never learned. Children are like sponges, soaking up everything their parents do.

The issue isn’t the good parent, it’s the children who mingle with your child during preschool and school. If they are around problematic children from awful parents, then the good kids will unfortunately suffer due to the bad kids, and so it goes on into adulthood and dealing with idiot adults.

You’re trying to mould children into an unnatural unhealthy environment and society. Children need 90% more time than parents give them and healthy children have abundance of energy that society tries to keep them subdued, &amp; this leads to tantrums. Then you have Karen’s who get angry when children play in their own gardens and the Karen’s complain about children’s normal noise level and playing on trampolines, so some parents lock their children inside in front of screens. <br><br>The biggest problem for parents now are the screens. <br><br>The screen isn’t a substitute for parenting or a childminder.

If only more folk understood that &#39;Wanting&#39; is &#39;Discontent&#39;. That &#39;Wanting&#39; is &#39;Unhappiness&#39;. And so as such, they would not teach their children to use the &#39;Dreaded Word&#39; (Want) through their own poor example. By repeatedly using the word &#39;Want&#39; themselves. Something that can simply be done by exchanging the word &#39;Want&#39; for other words such as &#39;Enjoy&#39; for example. For far less &#39;Emotional&#39; (Unhappy 😢) words. Best wishes 🙏

We have now become so soft that the emotion (the &#39;Unhappiness&#39;) that is in our children is now running the show in many households. And as such, those children have become extremely demanding and ungrateful. &#39;Spoilt Rotten&#39; in other words. Best wishes 🙏